David and I met on Thursday, March 2nd, 2000 in a computer room, in Yahoo
Chat. I rarely went there, only when something was wrong with my computer
and I didn't know what to do anymore. And that's what happened that night.
I went into the room to see if someone would help me. Still to this day, I
can't remember what my computer problem was, but very thankful that I had a
problem, no matter what it was. I asked if someone could help me and David
offered to help me. He sent me a private message so it would be easier for
him to help me and then invited me in a private room where we would not be
disturbed.
We chatted for about 2 hours and we talked about computers, nothing else.
I was very grateful of his help cause he helped me a lot. We said goodnight
and I logged off for the night. I never thought that I would ever hear from
him again. He was just a nice guy that helped me with a problem, and we never
talked about anything private. The only thing that he said was that I
shouldn't displayed my picture on my profile cause there is a lot of crazy
people out there on the net. He aksed if he could add me to his list just in
case i need help with my computer again. Of course I didn't refuse. Could
always need help with my computer.
How it all started
We didn't chat again all weekend, cause I wasn't on in Yahoo. On the Monday
we chatted again and from then on we chatted regularly but nothing personal.
He wasn't online to chat about personal things which surprised me cause that
was the first time that someone told me that. Most people want to know about
the other person. I didn't mind talking about computers but I don't know
much about computers. I would ask him questions and he would rarely answer
unless it was something with computers. I gave him my own personal nickname
"Computer Guy". I called him that until almost when we met in person.
After chatting about 2 weeks he helped me out with an incident that I had
with someone online and thank to him I got over that, I was so scared, I
don't know what I would have done if he hadn't been there for me. I asked
for his phone number but he wouldn't give it to me. He wasn't into that kind
of thing online. Still to this day I say he's a one of a kind. I kept bugging
him about calling him, I just wanted to hear his voice, and I'm actually a
better phone person than a chatting person. He still said no to give his
number but invited me in a voice chat. It was ok but still not like the
phone. He ended up giving me his number but said not to call, that he had to
pay for the calls. One day we both decided we were going to talk on the phone
and I called him. We talked for 3 hours and I couldn't believe it was him.
He had such a nice voice.
About a month after we started to chat he told me that he would love to visit
Canada and come and visit me sometime in July 2000. We never shared feelings
toward each other then. We were only friends and nothing more. He e-mailed
me his picture from his work card, a black and white picture and I couldn't
believe that was him. I had pictured him short, curly hair, glasses and geeky
looking, and he was far from that. He was about 1 foot taller than me, dark
hair, hazel eyes and heavier than me. All that I would want in a man. I
thought that he must like me, cause he knew what I looked like and I'm sure
no Cindy Crawford, and he still wanted to visit me. July was a good time
cause I was moving at the end of May and needed time to get all set up and
unpacked.
The more we talked the more I liked him. But I still found him mysterious
or more like hard to open up. But I was determined to win and make him open
up. I even asked him one day if I was trying for nothing and he said no
just to give him time. He had been hurt in a previous relationship and was
just being cautious, which I could understand. I had feelings for him but
had decided that I wouldn't be the one to say it first. I didn't want to
rush him into anything and I didn't want to be hurt either. I even had a
bet with one of my friend that he wouldn't tell me before 2 weeks and she
said that he would. Well I won, he told me 2 weeks and 2 days after.
First I LOVE YOU
On the 17th April, 2000, we're talking on the phone and when it was time to
hang up and saying bye I heard something that sounded like "I Love You". I
didn't believe what I heard and asked him what he said, and he said to
me "You heard me", I asked him to repeat cause I wasn't sure. He did, and
I coulnd't believe he said it to me. And on that day I told him how I felt
about him. I was feeling so much better now. It made me feel so good inside.
He decided to change the date and to put it closer. Instead of July it
would be June 26. These were going to be the longest 2 1/2 months ever.
After that day we talked on the phone and chat almost daily, except one
day when he didn't come online and he didn't answer his phone. I thought
he didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. I was crying so
much. The next day I called him up, and he said he sent me an e-mail,
which I got 2 days latter. Thanks yahoo mail !!! He was gone to the movies
with friends. What a relief it was.
Change of plans
Our plans changed and instead of coming for 2 weeks, he was coming up but
not going back. We were going to be staying together, for as long as he
could anyway. Since he's from New Jersey, US and I'm in Ontario Canada, we
knew that we will have to do something about that. But we wouldn't do
anything for at least 6 months cause he's allowed to visit Canada for 6
months legally. I couldn't wait to be with him, so after bugging the hell
out of he decided to come on Saturday June 3rd, instead of June 26. WOW it
was getting closer, we would finally be together. What a weird feeling of
seeing someone for the first time, touching, hugging, kissing, looking,
and moving in together all on the same day, but it was going to happen,
and I coudn't wait. As the day got closer, I got anxious and nervous, and
I took 2 weeks vacation so we could be together.
First Meeting
On Saturday morning David took the bus to New York city where he was to
take the train to Montreal. He called me around 4am from New York Central
Station where he was waiting. I couldn't believe we would be together in a
little over 12 hours. I couldn't go back to sleep after that. I got ready
to pick him up in Montreal, and my bus was leaving at 9am. I got to Montreal
around lunch time and stayed at the train station all afternoon even though I knew he wouldn't be there before 5:30pm. I was so nervous and not into shopping at all. I was afraid that he wouldn't pass customs for some strange reason. His train was delayed for 30 minutes, but it got there. I was waiting for him at the top of the elevator stairs and all of a sudden I saw him and he raised his eyebrows at me.
He recognized me which was a good sign. I still say he was nervous even
though he said that he wasn't, just tired and hot. We exchanged greetings
and I couldn't believe how tall he was. A foot taller than me, believe me
it shows. We went to get his luggage and on the way there, I stoped and ask
him if I could give him a hug and of course he said sure. We hugged and
kissed for the first time ever. It's engraved in my memory for the rest of
my life. We picked up his luggage cause we had to take the metro to another
station where a friend of mine was to pick us up. We didn't have much time
to talk but we were finally going to be home soon, where we would have all
the time in the world. My friend picked us up and we FINALLY came home. It
was strange but good. What a feeling, but a great feeling.
Meeting my kids and family and friends
The next day he met my kids which went really well. We spend the next 2
weeks talking about each other, getting to know each other, cuddling,
hugging and enjoying every minute of the day. We visited the town, my
family and my work place. Everyone seem to like him, not that it mattered.
I wasn't looking to going back to work. I felt that I was in a dream and
that I was going to wake up soon and get back in reality.
Long struggling to finally be together forever
David can legally stay in Canada for 6 months as a visitor. So we decided
that before the 6 month we weren't going to do anything except be together
and enjoy each other to the maximum. We did but then it got closer to the
date. I'm going to explain by date what we're doing for him to stay in
Canada. I'm sure it will be a long and hard struggle, but if we really
want to be together forever, we will have to be patient and be there for
each other. I believe that our love is strong enough to go through that
and that one day we will be together forever.
November 9, 2000
We mailed the application for extended visitors to Immigration. (Cost $75
CAN).
December 7, 2000
We received a letter from Immigration saying that they refused our
application cause we didn't send the money the right way, and that we had
to reapply, and we had to give more information on his staying here. If he
was to stay legally in Canada we had to sent the information and the money
on the same day, and since it was past the 6 months date of his coming
here, we had to send an extra $200 CAN on top of that $75. We called
Immigration to see if everything was ok and he could stay until we get a
letter back from Immigration. At least we were able to spend Christmas and
David' Birthday and New Year together, which I was so scared that he would
have to go back home. I got an e-mail from a woman who went through the
same thing yesterday and I was discourage on what we will have to go
through before we can be together forever. Please have a little thought
and a prayer for us, cause we will need it. We're waiting for the letter
from Immigration any day now to see if David has to go back home or if he
can stay a little longer.
February 3rd, 2001
This is a very sad, sad day for me and David. David went back to New Jersey
this morning, I brought him up to the bus terminal and we said our byes and
gave each other our last kisses for at least 6 months. This is so hard and
it really hurts me to have to be 6 months without him. But I know our love
is strong enough to make it and we will be together soon again and hopefully
in 6 months we'll be together forever. We're going to save the money for Immigration so David can have his permanent resident status and his work visa. I miss you David and I Love You very very much.
Maybe my story will one day help someone who is going through the same
thing.
If anyone is living the same thing as we are with Immigration and trying
to be with a loved one, please
E-Mail me, I would love to hear from you and help in anyway if I can.
Like a saying that I read in a book. once
